I’ve been going through some pretty big motions of change of late. I have this kind of personality that just takes on way to much if I let myself and 9 times out of 10 I let myself.
I get so excited by life and my brain and heart dream up big things and want to follow so many passions. I also feel, love and give myself deeply, which is a good thing until I give it all too much.Then I become weary, tired, confused, stressed and lost. Lately i’ve really had to take a step back, and have a birds view over how my life is mapping out right now. My family, my marriage, my business, my values and of course myself. And if i’m being honest things aren’t looking as awesome as they should be.The cracks have been showing in my mood, in my energy and in my health.
Rather than give a small part of me to a mountain of things I love, I have decided to give all of me to much less. This can only equal greater success, productivity and a world full of more happy.
I had to ask myself
What is important right now?
What is important soon?
What is important later?
And of course what isn’t even important at all?
I found so many things (and people) I used to think were a priority but simply don’t matter or appeal to me anymore. They were receiving a piece of me that could be used more positively somewhere else. Some of these things were hugely important to me at one stage, and rather than consider them wasted they did indeed serve a purpose of learning and experience. If they no longer excite me, make me feel happy or they draw happiness & energy from something more important they simply need to be removed. It’s ok to let go of dreams, passions and things you loved before if they no longer have a place in your heart.
On the other hand my family and other things I loved were receiving far to little of me and that was never ok. If we want better things, more time, better outcomes and greater happiness we have to keep ourselves in check.It is crucial to reflect, reevaluate and respond on a regular basis.
It’s something I do quite often in business but have started to implement in a lot of other areas to help me to continue to grow along my journey of life. Business, career, education, marriage, family, friends.. literally everything needs a regular check. You can lose yourself in it if you don’t. You could actually lose everything if you don’t.
Reflect on how things have been (or have not been) working in your life, reevaluate their importance and their alignment with your values, consider their importance and impact on others and respond accordingly.Even if it means loss, even if it means starting again.
I like to map out my life somewhat on some paper or even better a large piece of cardboard as big as my goal list, i’m very hands on and visual and for me writing and reading these things let’s me see the paths and the blocks along the way. I like to write down things I feel are missing from my life and things I might be struggling with and compare it with my goals, or lists from the past. If there are other people involved (Husbands, kids, work colleagues) they can share in the process or even compare their own goal or reflection lists.
More of me to less for greater outcomes and greater happiness, You can’t die wondering about things.
Keep smiling!